One of the first things that will happen when you find yourself faced with a divorce, is well-meaning friends and relatives will offer advice about what you should do and how you should do it. While their intentions are always good, you should not base any critical decisions on the advice of loved ones, even if they speak from experience. This is when it becomes critical that you find an attorney who will serve your interests in a realistic and practical way. In a highly stressful time, it’s important that you face the decisions that will follow pragmatically, and with the right legal counsel. There are a few things to remember when looking for best legal counsel for you:
Divorce is a LEGAL process, therefore regardless of how much pain and anger you are working through, the end goal is to keep emotions out of the proceedings and move towards a speedy and fair divorce as quickly as possible. You will need to find an attorney you feel comfortable with and who will listen with empathy and compassion, but the ultimate goal is to resolve your legal issues quickly and with as little financial damage as possible so that you can move on with your life.
Be realistic about what type of divorce is best suited for you by evaluating your overall relationship with your partner and what is likely to be the easiest route for dissolution of the marriage. There are several different types of divorces and that can determine what type of attorney you need based on your circumstances.
You will need an attorney who has experience in family law and who is able to communicate with you and the judges in your court system. Consider hiring a lawyer who has relationships in the legal community in which they practice. This is where asking friends and family if they’ve had positive experiences with local attorneys could be of help.
Do your homework before you choose your attorney, make a phone call and ask for a meeting. Voice your concerns and ask questions. If you suspect your divorce will require additional experts, make sure your attorney has access to any facilitators that may be required.
Above all else, pay close attention to how you feel when you’re with your potential attorney. Do you feel valued and respected as a client? Are they discreet about other clients? Are they cordial to other attorneys? All of this speaks to treating others with respect and attention, and this is something you will need during a process that can be lengthy and difficult. Your divorce attorney should be local, professional, responsive, a good communicator, and above all else, an ally in your corner.